Dating

In chatting with younger friends, it's pretty clear the world of dating feels like a giant existential question mark for some of them. What does it even mean to be a man or partner these days? Spoiler alert, it’s definitely complicated! Sure, we’re all about equality now, but let’s not pretend men are carbon copies of each other. Masculine energy, feminine energy, whether you're rocking a beard or a beauty blender, men have got different vibes going on…

 

Some guys can be as emotionally deep as the Cayman Trench (deeper than Mount Everest is tall) … just like some can throw down when needed. We’ve all evolved. I mean, look at women! Back in Roman times, we were basically property, couldn’t own anything, sign contracts, vote, and let’s not even talk about violence being perfectly legal. Fast forward to 2018, in Saudi women are finally allowed to drive. Progress? Sure. But in terms of gender and sexuality access to education, jobs, and basic human rights is still a hot mess in way too many parts of the world.

 

Meanwhile, guys, you’ve always had your own macho struggles too, being sent off to every war and conflict like it’s your duty. Surprise! Turns out, that’s not so great for your mental health either!

 

Now let’s get into the juicy stuff ... our gloriously messed-up digital world. Honestly, social media and dating apps make dating feel like we’re shopping for people on Shein. Swipe left, swipe right, “I like this one, no wait, that one, ugh, next!”, it’s all so transactional. 

We’re treating humans like we’re picking out a new pair of shoes. And don’t even get me started on how we’re judging one another based on the most surface-level nonsense like our bodies, gender roles etc, No wonder so many feel psychologically unsafe.

 

Is this unhealthy? Absolutely. Polarising? You bet. How are we all so connected yet so painfully alone? 

 

Yes, society has evolved. But the price tag? Instant gratification, zero patience, and distractability leaving attention spans shorter than a TikTok. And here’s the kicker, there’s so much individual variation within each gender that the whole "men are this, women are that" conversation is old. We’re all walking, talking contradictions. Maybe it’s time we stop overgeneralising and, I don’t know, treat people like unique individuals. 

My motto? Love all!